Drama

1. Flaky Bridesmaid turned weird

I have a bridesmaid that originally dropped out/kicked out because she was flaky and kept standing me up. So I let her back in the bridal party a couple of months ago after she kept bugging me. She's been pretty good so far. However at the invitation addressing party that I had, she up and left a few times for an hour and then the last time she just didn't come back. It was weird and my other bridesmaids were pretty stunned by her actions. I mean thats pretty rude to just up and walk out and then come back without telling me where she was going and why... but whatever.

what kind of stunned me was that they decided to split up the responsibilities for my shower and they gave her an even share. So basically they are trusting her to show up and do 1/3 of whatever they are planning in 2 weeks.

So today I was at my aunt's house and she called my cousin. So I thought it had to do with the shower so I didn't think anything about it. Until two of my other bridesmaids called me and complained about the weird phone call they got.

Apparently she is calling everyone asking people how much money they plan to give her to help plan the shower. Then she started telling everyone she should have been maid of honor..etc. She even told my maid of honor twice that she took her job. Apparently she has some elaborate story about how she was maid of honor first, and then we didn't get along so she quit, and then she all of a sudden was replaced by my ex-MOH. I know she doesn't really have a lot of money, but if she couldn't afford to do whatever third she got, she should give it to someone else, not demand donations from other people. So I told my MOH that my fiance's grandma wants to help, and to let her if my BM is having money troubles... or call me and ask me who might be able to give some money... not just call them. ugh.

So I don't know how to handle this, do I just pretend I don't know, or play dumb and ask like no one complained and just say I heard she called my cousin and was wondering why? Or just straight out confront her.

2. My mom and I don't get along. So I felt really torn about even inviting her. A few family members said they wouldn't come if I didn't, so I did. She just sent in her reply card that she was coming. Yay. <--sarcastic

So I thought i'd be nice and ask if she wanted to come to the salon with us to get her hair done. She just sent me an email back that said "no" thats it. So I have a fitting coming up so I thought I'd see if she wantaed to go to that .. another email "no". I kind of want to see her before my shower in a few weeks.. I dont know if she is going or not. She lied about even getting an invite. Which is a lie because my grandma saw hers in the mailbox with hers. She started telling my family who asked if she was invited that I didnt invite her, and then finally the invite magically appeared. *rolls eyes*

She made a scene at my sisters wedding because she felt slighted because she wasn't front and center. She won't be front and center at my wedding either. We aren't doing a family member processional (FH's dad is already best man) or flowers. Besides being sat in the front of the room, she isnt going to be mentioned in the programs, or speeches etc. She hasn't done crap to me this year except make me stressed out and annoyed. I don't think she deserves anything. I just don't know what to do. I don"t really want to ask her to do anything else. I kind of feel like I've tried to do all that I can.