Family issues

So I was talking to my aunt tonight and she's trying to convince me that my wedding would not be complete without my mother... and that my mom has done sooo much for me, and she hasn't been the same since she was slighted at Jenn's wedding and blah blah blah.

well excuse me for wanting a nice fun day and I didn't want someone there that would just cause problems. I mean I'm already annoyed about all the stuff she's been doing.. I dont know how many posts I have about how much my mom has been driving me crazy. So if she can't behave herself in public (proof in point - my sisters wedding) and we don't ever get along (proof in point - pretty much everytime I've ever traveled with her.)
Now that she decided to not pay for anything anymore - I don't care if she comes. She obviously doesn't care about all the problems she is causing.

I just wish that people would be happy.
that more people would be excited

and we can still have a fun wedding even without my moms money..

I think.

Dress shopping

My friend Julie needed to go to Modesto to check up on her wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses. So I offered to go with her, and she said well lets just make a day of it and we can go look for some stuff for you..

So we went to David's Bridal and a couple of other shops..

I kind of like this one for bridesmaids actually

Another dress.. Cap sleeves, organza overlay with some beading and a satin trim:

Lace dress with a sash that can possibly be removed


oh and a pretty tiara


and some more pictures of the dress from the other day:
length of train:



oh and this is why I'm having trouble finding navy bridesmaid dresses.. the navy is just so super dark it blends in with black:

Another dress

Front


Back


Bustled



I like the organza skirt. The beading makes it sparkle without being overbearing. I love the corset back - its kind of a faux corset back - it actually zips up and the corset goes over the back.
I don't like the big flowers all over it, but thats okay. I guess its better than some random design and I dont like the spaghetti straps - they kept falling down - but that can be easily fixed OR they can add sleeves.. or something.

David's bridal

What I didn't like about the David's Bridal dress: Really heavy thick beading on the chest and the satin underlay. In person, I liked the way the chiffon looked but the satin was really shiny and it looked weird with the long shiny triangle down the front

Straw thief

I've been wondering what has been happening to all the straws out of my drinks.. I kept figuring that Aaron grabbed my drink on accident and threw it out and left his behind..

so Aaron took some photos to demonstrate why I shouldn't leave my cup in a kitten friendly place:

Casing out the crime

Going in for the kill

Examining the catch

great.

must go wash cup now.
great.

must go wash cup now.

A bridesmaid has been fired or quit? I don't know

Soo....

flaky bridesmaid continued..

so Tasha comes over to my house to get her laundry that she left over here for 3 days. She had to wait around an hour for the laundry to finish because I didn't put it in the dryer like she'd asked me to... like I'm her maid or something. So, I ask her if shes going tomorrow because I was a little annoyed that she let me know last minute, I can't cancel until tomorrow and there isn't any way I can get a replacement so last minute - unless I want to take Aaron with me. So she said she'll go. So I was just joking as she left and said if she didn't go, I would demote her to flower girl. So she said she'd rather be flower girl than get up so early.

So I thought she was going to go. I was a little annoyed about having to convince her to go, considering going was her idea in the first place.

Fast forward, 20 minutes, and she sends me some nasty text message about how I need to be more understanding when she has to work and how she doesn't like that I'm forcing her to go when she's super tired and wants to sleep in tomorrow.

So I text her back and tell her that if she didn't want to go, she should have let me know a few weeks ago when I made the appointment, and that if she thought it was early, she should have told me 2 days ago when I reminded her about the appointment.. instead of tonight. I know she's out at some party right now because she was talking to her boyfriend about it. So the reason she wants to sleep in is because she won't be going to bed until really late ( maybe not until morning) because she'll be out partying.

I also said that I'm really just annoyed about how one sided things have become.. she wants me to drop everything and come get her 2 hours away when she leaves her husband. She wants to come over and use my computer. She wants me to take her places. She wants Aaron to come over and fix her car... but when it comes to doing one little thing for me.. she blows me off so she can go party all night.

Well f that. I hadn't even made her up a Save the Date because well frankly I wasn't sure that I was even going to end up inviting her the way things have been going with her. I also sent the other girls little cards asking them to be bridesmaids a few days ago, and I didn't send one to her because I didn't want to officially ask her because she was being all flaky. I've never actually said anything about her being a bridesmaid, she asked if she could be one, and I said i didn't know, we'd have to see on how many people Aaron has.

So now I'm glad I didn't send her anything confirming anything..

Maybe she'll decide to show up tomorrow.. I doubt she will.

I'm not going to try to contact her again. Really I hadn't even heard from her in a few weeks before last weekend when she randomly called and asked if I wanted to go to dinner. Before that she was supposed to go somewhere with me, and didn't show. So I hadn't called. I'd been getting pretty annoyed for the last few months about how everything is Me me me.. and she doesn't even seem to be appreciative that I do so much for her.

So I guess I'm just going to fire her, but I guess if I never really asked, is it called firing? I dont know. Whatever it is.. I'm just going to ask someone else.

Firing a bridesmaid?

So one of my friend that assumed she would be a bridesmaid, is extremely flaky. Since I never asked her to be in the wedding, and she's been so flaky, I don't really see why I can't just tell her I'm concerned about her behavior and I need people that are going to be there when I need them to be there.

I know she works, but she blows me off for stupid reasons.

Last month, she was supposed to go with me to Sacramento to look at dresses, she didn't show up. Luckily, one of my other friends went with me.
Also last month, she was supposed to go with me again to Sacramento to look at dresses, she didn't show up or call or anything.

She did go with me on Tuesday to look at dresses (but it wasn't planned, we were just walking by someplace and decided to go in), but I think that was just because she needed a place to do her laundry.

Then yesterday, she called me an hour before our dress appointment at another shop, that I had to book a week in advance, to cancel. So I ended up taking Aaron's grandma with me at the last minute

Tomorrow, I had made an appointment at another shop in Sacramento, and she was supposed to go with me. I made the appointment for 11:00. There was one available at 4:00 too, but she said that she had somewhere to be at 8:00, and I didn't want to be rushed, and its an hour there and back, so I took the 11:00 appointment. So when I was talking to her today, she was like I'll be at your house at 2:30. So I said why? Our appointment is at 11. So now she doesn't want to go, because she needs to sleep in on her only day off. So then she's like well cancel you appointment (shop is closed, already btw) and we'll go someplace in town at 3. No. I am not finding anything in town.

So I'm pissed. Now I have an appointment tomorrow in sacramento, that I'm going to have to cancel only an hour early - the shop opens at 10... unless I can find someone to go with me. Which I dont think I will. Its really short notice for an out of town trip for anyone down here that would go.

I'm just really pissed off.

So you don't want to go to an appointment that I only made because you said you wanted to go - first she said she wanted to go to San Francisco (farther away than Sacramento)!

I'm kind of in a spot, because she is really one of the only ones that seems to want to go (even if she never does), but at the same time - she never does end up going for some reason or another.

One year to go

Yay.. only one more year to go until I get married!!!!!!

::jumps up and down::

Its just a little distrubing to me that it is sprinkling today.. AND that our venue is completely outdoor. The weather on Monday was great, so was tuesday. Yesterday was a little windy and today its sprinkling.. augh.

My mom won't come to the wedding

My mom has been uninvited from the wedding/refuses to come because she has decided that if her billion friends can't come, then she can't come. She was giving us $5,000 (supposedly. She often decides to just cut me off at the last minute/take stuff away/change her mind.. anyways) like she gave my sister.

Then she decided she didn't like the direction I was going with my wedding (nothing that she liked), she got more and more critical and bitchy as the days went on. Then she decided that she wanted to invite more than the 8 people she had originally given us and her list ballooned to 30 people, then 50 people. Those 50 people at $60 a head is already 3,000 meaning that Aaron and I would be paying for the majority anyways. We had wanted her to pay for the entire food/drink budget which she agreed to.

Our original list was about 85 people including 4 for my mom - which we expanded to 8 to make her happy (85*60 = 5100 - perfectly within the 5,000 budget) - but then she got out of control. Aaron's dad isn't inviting anyone at all. So we though 8 people (1 whole table of people i didn't know) was more than generous. Considering thats about 10% of her budget. Then when I brought up the fact that those 50 people were costing $3,000, and that it was $60 per person, she said they were worth the $60 a person and handed me a list of 10 more names that we just HAD to add.

So yeah, she's not coming. Considering she has single handedly doubled our original guest list with people we don't even know... and she's started promising them they can come despite my pleas for her to not tell anyone that they could come and to wait til we figure everything out.

Elopement sounds good right now

My sister offered to buy my dress. So I accepted. It was really nice of her to do so.. or offer to pay for the majority because most dresses are way over her budget, so thats fine with me.

So I really think its really annoying that my sister just sent me a link to the Maggie Sottero website telling that me that her friend got a dress from there and she likes those dresses if I wanted to look at them..

There is no way on her budget that I'd be able to afford ANY of those dresses...The ones i've seen from there are $1000! Thats like double her budget.

So I emailed her back and told her that the Maggie dresses are expensive, even on the discount sites.

and she was like.. oh I know. I just thought maybe you'd just want to see them.

Then she sends me another email that says:

well I'm only going to buy something for you if you lose weight so you better get started!!??!>!?!

Augh. Does 5 lbs count? :-D

I'm just so sick of all this wedding stuff.

I actually did some research on Lake Tahoe and think a couple of places sound nice.

Wedding planning = not fun. stressful. annoying. frustrating.

I just want to give up, cut our losses - forfeit all of our deposits, send out - "Don't Save the Date Anymore" emails and run off with a couple of close friends, close family AND so what if my family doesn't want me to get married somewhere else.

They aren't paying for anything with the wedding.
so they can all kiss my butt. If they really want to see me get married, they can suck it up and travel the 2.5 hours, if not oh well, I'll send you a postcard.

Dress shopping

I'll post a couple of pictures of me in a dress I like... its a couple sizes too small, so don't laugh at me. The dress kind of bunched up around my hips because it gathers there, but the salesperson assured me that was just because it wasn't my size. My friend that was with me, said that the train/back was too plain. It has stuff on the back of the dress, but the train is just white.

don't laugh at me and ignore the bad hair.. yours would look bad too if you were taking stuff off and putting stuff on for about an hour..

Bad picture of me laughing because the woman behind me is supposed to be hiding.. and she kept popping her head up. This is the third picture we took of this same shot.


Picture of the back of the dress:

The dress is $600 and I'm not sure how much it would be to add those sleeves. I think the sleeves would be a must have.

I know I still have about 4-6 months until I have to order a dress. So maybe something else will come along.