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What is with people wanting to bring random people to my wedding?!!

Edit: Everyone who received an invite had the persons invited listed on the invite. No one with the exception of two people got an invite that said "and guest".

So if the invite says Mr. and mrs. Jack and Jane Doe. That doesn't mean Jane can bring her friend Sue or her two kids Billy and Molly. That means that she can bring Jack unless she checks with me first and gets permission to subsitute for someone else.
oh and kids were not listed at all. Why? because they weren't invited!! Nope not at all. I'm sure they thought we were silently inviting kids because mostly everyone has added on their children, but you are mistaken.

No you can't bring your best friend if your husband can't come. I would be willing to pay $100 for your husband to come party with us, but not some random person I've never met... oh and you want to bring your two kids? to an evening wedding with an open bar out in the country surrounded by open vineyards (with no fences!!) where they can wander off and never be seen again?

um no. The venue isn't exactly kid friendly.

i should have wrote at the bottom of my invite, no substitutions or exchanges allowed. Most everyone I've talked to has assumed that if the invite is for two people, they can just bring any two people, it doesn't have to be who is listed on the invite. Plus.. kids are never mentioned on an invite, so if it doesn't have your two kids names on it, thats okay. We really did silently invite them.. no need to check with us before you send your RSVP back.

Oh and your neighbor/cousin/best friend/old science teacher will be in town at the same time? and you want to bring them with you? Um no. This actually costs us money per person. This isn't just cake and punch in my backyard.

If you have a new boyfriend from the time we sent the invites out a month ago, he is not invited. I'm sorry but even people in my bridal party who are single aren't bringing dates... why because its a lot of money per person.. and we don't have rich relatives paying for this. We are paying for this. I wish people would just check before inviting extra people.