and the search goes on.. and on... and on.. and on...

So yesterday Aaron, his dad, My mom and me went up to view our top two ceremony sites in sacramento and on the way home we stopped at the vineyard in Lodi to have another look. My favorite part of the whole day? The adorable little kitten at the vineyard in lodi. Her name was meow meow and she was so freaking cute.
So lets recap my day a little bit.

Aaron and I are running a little bit late meeting my mom and his dad at his grandparents house. So we don't leave on time. Which kind of worried me that we'd be late. Especially when I learned that Aaron's dad drives the speed limit on the freeway. Exactly the speed limit and not a bit over. So it took forever to get there. We weren't late though surprisingly.
I was kind of pissed when the lady at the country club double booked our appointment time. So I felt kind of weird talking finances in front of these complete strangers. Plus we had a good sized group already, and it only went to make the tour that much slower. Because she not only had my questions, she had the other brides questions and my moms and aaron's and etc.

Plus she had another group scheduled directly after us, so they were already waiting (in the same room as us). Plus the "sales manager" didn't know how much all of the required extras were. Like they require we do our centerpieces through them. However, they said its about $50 each for floral centerpieces (if we have about 15-16 tables that could really add up) but they do have non-floral options. So I asked how much they were - she had no idea. She said normally the people who did know didn't like to be bothered if we aren't booked. So basically to get your questions answered by someone who knows how much EVERYTHING will cost, you have to be booked. Which is the most retarded thing I have ever heard.
I was kind of upset when we left because I felt it was kind of rude to 1. double book and 2. noticeably rush through everything and try to get us out of there ASAP.

I was a little more excited because we went to the place I liked next. I love the wedding coordinator there. We are both on the same page, she's friendly and nice and willing to answer all of my questions. She even gave her 1:00 appointment to her assistant so she could accomodate us at the last minute. She called me back around 10 am (I had called and left her a message around 8 pm last night). She said we could come at 1:00 because she would give the other group to her assistant. Aaron called the hotel a "glorified Holiday Inn" and no one really seemed to like it at all. Which kind of upset me.. because that was the place I liked. Plus Aaron kind of went on about how bad it was in front of everyone and I was a little embarassed and upset.

I got over it at lunch. We stopped on the way home at Joann's to look at the wedding stuff because my mom said it was onsale. We didn't end up buying anything except some candles that were on sale and a couple of wedding magazines.

On the way back we stopped at the two vineyards in Lodi. The really pretty but expensive one and the pretty and semi-reasonable one. They had the cutest kitten and i spent a lot of time playing with her. Then we asked if our date was still available - it was - but it was the only september date. So we had them hold it for week. I don't know I think the vineyard is going to be the better bet. They are nice there and seem to want to help. Although Aaron straight out told the owner we were looking at other places and we hadn't decided yet. So she asked what other places and etc. I thought it was a terribly uncomfortable conversation. I think its okay to mention other places in passing, but not to straight out start discussing them in front of other people.

So that was my day yesterday. I had thought we would put a deposit down, but we didnt. Now I'm stuck with the site issues again for another week. I'm just so sick of looking for a site. No where has really stuck out as THE one.. Either the ceremony site sucks or the reception site sucks or there is some other issue I dont like. well okay maybe it doesn't suck, but there is something about it I don't like. Its just really annoying...REALLY annoying.

I think the one I like the best so far is the vineyard. The only things I don't like? I think the bridal suite looks like something from my grandma's house.. plus its cluttered with knick knacks. I don't like that it would serve only beer, wine or champagne as I am not a fan of any of them. So basically I'd be drinking soda at my wedding. which really bites. The other thing is it is all outside. Which has its upsides (dancing under the stars) and its downsides (too hot? too cold? bugs?)

Augh. So I don't know.. I'm so conflicted.