Temper tantrums galore

My mother is like a spoiled brat throwing a temper tantrum because she is not getting her way.

Her dream wedding for me is:
A cheap wedding where we still have some of her money left over to take a nice honeymoon. Shes only giving us a few thousand. So how are we supposed to plan a wedding, have a wedding, with food etc, and still have money left over for a european honeymoon? I don't know. Considering most places around here cost at least a few thousand to even to rent a place. Then she keeps talking about this fancy $1000 rehersal dinner.. so she is just confusing the hell out of me.

She is really upset about us venturing outside of the stockton area to look at wedding sites. Eventhough she very willingly went to a few places with me in Modesto. So I dont know why she is upset about that. She said no one will want to go an hour away for the wedding. When they will. My aunt (who never travels) said she'd go as far as sacramento.. or any place the same distance away.

Basically what she wants is:

a small wedding close to home with all of her friends and none of mine (in her opinion we should invite all the people who will give the best gifts (her friends) and the first people to cut would be my friends (all the college students with limited income)). Where we spend all of our money on her friends and family. Where we have limited people our age there and all the older people taking over. Shes been arguing with me about why I want a dj (because all the old people won't dance) and why we want as long a reception as we can have... because all the old people will leave by 9 anyways. So I was like who cares if they leave, that leaves everyone else to party and have fun. It could be just me and Aaron there til 11 or 12 and I'd be okay with that.

Then she wants us to choose the cheapest location - a place Aaron absoluetly hates. All the cheap ones (a few thousand less at the most) are the ones that look the worst and/or need the most decorations. If we choose a place that is already pretty, we need less decoration thus saving money.

If we can spend the extra few thousand towards a prettier location instead of decorating a place that needs a lot of decorations.

Basically I think I am being punished because Jenn has a big elaborate wedding, so I'm supposed to make up for that by being satisfied by having a small dinky ratty wedding? Whats wrong with wanting to get married somewhere pretty?

She thinks I talked Aaron into spending money he didn't want to spend. I did not. I basically took Aaron around and showed him what we could afford on the budget he proposed and he decided to up the budget himself because he didnt like any of them.

My mom said "I don't want to be a part of some big fancy wedding. I thought you were different than Jennifer. But you are just the same."

Well if I am the same.. don't come. If she ruins my wedding day, I will never forgive her.

Oh and she's been offering her friend as a photographer for awhile - but she hasn't been able to get a hold of him - and now she's telling me she doesn't know who will take our pictures when we are soooooooo far away. (there are such things as a photographer)

I do know this - I am not choosing a place that either me or aaron doesnt like just to please my mom. I'll take her suggestions but they are just that - suggestions. I'm not going to turn my wedding into something I dont like just to please my mom or anyone else.

I'll choose the dresses I want
the place i want
..etc

I dont care what anyone but Aaron thinks... because it is OUR day... not their day.