Maid of honor issues ... again

So my friend Maya is my Maid of Honor and tonight I went over to hang out for a little bit with her since I never see her since she works weird hours and plus she'd rather spend her days off with her family, which I understand.

but this is my wedding, my only wedding hopefully... and I need some support..

So I bring my little binder with me so I can show her pictures of the dress I bought. I also ask her about the cake design I was looking at to see if she liked it.

Then we start talking about going to look at bridesmaid dresses next week. I've pretty much planned a whole day trip so we can take our time looking, hit more than one shop (I planned to hit three stores that sell completely different designers) and make sure we find a dress, thats not a billion dollars that people can live with.. I get the final say, but I want them to be able to wear the dress and not be completely uncomfortable.

I sent them invitations. I said in the invitations that they didn't HAVE TO go with us, but I really wanted them to be able to try on the dresses we're considering and give their honest opinion. If they are extremely uncomfortable, I want to know. I gave them all about a month and a half notice. I also sent them an itinerary with what I was kind of expecting. Including times that I was expecting we were going to be gone, I've been dress shopping, I've had people try on dresses before and I know how long it can take.

We may all like a dress but come to find out that the colors it comes in are limited.

So she said why can't you just pull out all the blue dresses and we'll just try on those.

Because - dresses that come in blue, may not all have samples in blue.
I think each store will take probably up to an hour, maybe more. Depending on how fast people try stuff on, going through the dresses, looking etc. I don't think thats too much to ask. We could really break the dress shopping up into shorter trips, but honestly, since it has been so extremly hard to get people to even go dress shopping for me, much less dress shopping for them.

Honestly, if they want to go, then they can go. I am not forcing them to go. I asked them nicely to go. I hate feeling like I'm being unreasonable. I hate feeling like I can't do anything right. I don't like feeling like I'm being unfair for wanting them to help. I could go shopping alone and pick out something that I likeand who cares what anyone else thinks. I just think I'm being nice by giving them an opportunity to pick something out that they will be able to live with. Like if the dress is scratchy or hard to sit in or too lowcut or something, i will need to know.

I just feel really annoyed that she's been complaining this whole time about everything.. color choices, length, etc. Here I am giving her the opportunity to go and make sure its a dress she can live with and her response:

Why can't you just pick a dress out and we'll all buy it since we have no say anyways?

*headdesk*

Seriously!!!!

Why do weddings bring out the worst in all of my loved ones. I swear some people have just been there for me, and some are just annoying me to death. I wish Maya could be one of those that just helped me without question.

For example:

I was showing Maya my dress, and I told her that she would have to come with me to one of my fittings so that the store can show her how to lace it up and how to bustle the dress, so that someone knows exactly what to do when it comes time to get me dressed and ready.

her response?

You're not hiring someone to come help you with your dress? I have to help you get ready? I didn't know that.

....??

I was like well thats really one of the things the maid of honor is supposed to do. She just seemed utterly appalled that there was even one more thing that she was expected to do.

Why can't anything go right?!?!

I kind of regret my decision to make her my maid of honor because I honestly need someone to help me out more than she is doing. I know she has other responsibilites... but is it too much to ask for some help once in awhile with stuff that is going on in my life without getting such a horrible response? I went to her house early and helped her get ready for her vow renewal. I don't see why expecting the samething from her, is getting this response...