Bridesmaids Duties?

Since I have had a lot of problems with getting people to help me, do you think it would be rude to send out/hand out some sort of expectations or duties list for my bridesmaids?

I was thinking about doing it when I sent out my bridesmaid invitations, but I was convinced not to by a wedding forum. I think I would have rather them know what they were getting into rather than me being disappointed and/or upset that they didn't want to help with anything.

I thought them going dress shopping to help pick out their dresses would be a given, but now my Maid of Honor (maybe/maybe not) doesn't want to go because she's not getting a say in the dress, so why should she go?

Well to make sure the dress looks good on her - like its not too low cut in the front, its not too low in the back, She's not hanging out, Its not itchy or uncomfortable. I want them to be comfortable. They don't have the necessarily like the dress, but they should be able to wear it without complaints. When I was in my sisters wedding, the dress was itchy and it was so tight in some areas it gave me blisters.

Things I want to include:

- I would appreciate it if they plan on attending all pre-wedding events - rehearsal, shower, bachelorette party..etc.
- I would like help with things like assembling the invitations, place cards, favors, programs, etc.
- They are not expected to get their hair/nails/makeup professionally done, but if they want to, they should let me know so I can make an appointment for them when I make mine.
- They are not expected to wear matching shoes/hairstyles/purse/jewelery etc.
- What time they have to be at the wedding ceremony site and what I expect them to look like when they arrive - ie hair done, make up done, dressed and ready to help me get dressed and ready for pictures.
etc...

I just want to make everything clear so that I don't have anyone else complain about doing something..

or I could just hand out articles from The Knot on Bridesmaid duties:

The bridesmaid is an integral part of any wedding, on hand to comfort, console, multitask, and party hearty at all bridal event(s). Whether it's your first bridesmaid gig or your 50th, here's a cheat sheet of your to-dos.



Offer to help with prewedding tasks. Try to be specific when you volunteer. For example, say, "Would you like me to help you shop for bridesmaid dresses/stuff invitations/pack for the honeymoon?" instead of just, "What can I do?"


Scout out bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry, and other accessories. Pay for the entire ensemble. (Break in your shoes before the wedding day -- that will minimize slipping, blisters, and aching tootsies.)


Help to plan, cohost, and pay for the shower and bachelorette party with other bridesmaids.


If the maid/matron of honor isn't already handling this task, keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and showers (so that the bride/couple can write thank-you notes); maintain RSVP lists.


Attend the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. (Keep abreast of all prewedding parties, and go to as many as possible.)


Run last-minute errands. On the day of the wedding, be on hand to confirm flower delivery times, meet and greet the ceremony officiant, or satisfy junk food cravings.


Stand in the receiving line at the bride's request.


Serve as auxiliary hostess at the reception by introducing guests, making sure they know where the bar is located, and inviting them to sign the guest book.


Hit the dance floor when the music kicks in. Dance with groomsmen during the formal first-dance sequence. Also, be on the lookout for toe-tapping guests who might need encouragement and/or a dance partner.


Give the maid/matron of honor a break by helping to carry the bride's train whenever necessary. Bustle the train before dancing begins, and be ready to help fix it if it comes unhooked. Accompany the bride on visits to the restroom, if asked.


Purchase a wedding present perhaps with one or several of the other bridesmaids. This provides more buying power, and two heads are better than one when it comes to gift ideas. Sometimes the entire bridesmaid troupe pitches in for one knock-her-socks-off wedding gift.


Be a trooper, no matter how stressful the ordeal becomes. Try not to complain about the bridesmaid dress -- even if the color is horrendous. Be gracious and tactful.


Provide plenty of emotional support during the planning and on the wedding day.