Now she's not going

So I left my phone at home today during work because well I completely forgot my purse all together. When I got home I noticed Maya had called a couple of times and then left a message. She said to call her back, so I did.

Apparently her church has approved her daughters baptism finally. So they scheduled it for next weekend... which is cool and everything because they've been waiting forever to get approved because they couldn't find Bella anyone to be a godparent that fit the church's strict rules. So that is going to be sunday. So she decides that she can't go on Saturday because now she needs all the time to get ready for Bella's baptism the next day.

I'm glad that they were able to get it straightened out. I'm a little more annoyed that they scheduled it for a day because "she already had that weekend off". Well she had that weekend off because of me.

So then she's asks if I'm going to come over and help her get ready on Saturday and be there on Sunday.

Well um.. no because I'm going shopping with the bridesmaids on Saturday and Sunday I have to work, so I can't even go to the baptism.

So then she gets all pissy with me because I'm choosing to go look at "silly dresses" over her daughters baptism and that I'm not even going to be there.

So I said that I can't back out on everyone because its already planned and that I have to work, so I can't go on sunday. I could probably meet them somewhere at 6 when I get off work, but since the baptism starts at 3, I doubt they will still be there.

She just gets all mad and says that I'm not understanding of her situation and she has a lot to do, and again that I should just pick out the dresses on my own. Since she's not getting an opinion no one should..etc.

How fucking ridiculous. I just feel like I'm not that important to her and she doesn't really want to be involved. I actually cried when i got off the phone because I was so upset that she was cancelling on me afer all the s*** she has put me through complaining about this and complaining about that.. and bitching about the dress.

Do I ask her to step down as maid of honor so I can have someone who wants to help have the special title? or do I just let it be? I just don't know how many ways I can stress that I really want her to be involved and she just isn't.