One more bridesmaid?

since Maya quit (this seems to be a recurring theme doesn't it?), I told tasha that maya quit. So all of a sudden she wants to be in the wedding again..

So I kind of ignored the requests. Finally I told her I was concerned about her behavior and I really needed people who wanted to help and would help without being flaky... plus we already had even sides. Aaron had 4, I had 4. I told her later that she could be an usher if she wanted, or guestbook or something and she turned me down. Kerry, one of my MOHs, said that she wouldnt want someone as flaky as Tasha in her bridal party. I agree..

However, I was telling Aaron that Tasha had been bugging me about being a bridesmaid, but how she had already quit because she was flaky... and that I didn't really want her to be a bridesmaid because I didn't think I could count on her. I told him this because I said that she turned down my offer to be an usher.

He looked at me and said I was being mean and that if she wanted to be a bridesmaid, why didn't i just let her because why did it matter? So i said that it mattered because that meant an extra gift and an extra bouquet.

So he said well tell her she can be a bridesmaid if she buys her own bouquet.. lol.

So now I'm thinking, am I being mean? Should I just let her. One more bridesmaid is not a big deal....